How do others respond if we share bad news on social media, rather than just general personal information or positive events? In a study recently published in Personality and Individual Differences , Lauren Saling and colleagues conducted an experimental study in which participants evaluated other people's negative self-disclosures, imagining that these disclosures were made by a close friend.
"Every bone in my body has changed since I had a baby, of course intimacy would change too." I feel you, Mama (but not literally because I know that’s the last thing you want).
Early-developing attachment affects the desired intimacy with partners Source: Howard Newman/Wikimedia Commons In contrast, interactions with attachment figures who are inconsistently responsive or consistently unresponsive result in the adoption of alternative strategies for dealing with the ensuing insecurity: hyperactivation and deactivation of the attachment system, respectively.
Source: Pixabay License, Free for Commercial Use, No LIcense Required By David Braucher, L.C.S.W., Ph.D. When we insist that our partners show their love the way we want them to, we might be avoiding having a truly intimate relationship.
Men, on the other hand, more often struggle with allowing themselves to surrender to the deep levels of interdependence that make intimacy possible. The more that men struggle to allow the kind of vulnerability that would allow them to connect, the more insecure and dependent their wives/partners become.
It was a hard question to answer: “How does love between adolescents change over the growing-up years, and what lessons might a young person learn from each kind of experience?” What follows are a few thoughts in response.
Given your original, filial relationship, and your need to keep yourself as emotionally safe in it as possible, in your present one you’d, self-protectively, feel required to "moderate" your connection to them.
The results were unexpected: The majority of the participants who pursued physical intimacy did end up sleeping with their ex, “but this did not influence how someone managed to get over the end of their relationship.” Even those who were still pining after their former flames did not feel “distressed or depressed” after hooking up with their exes.
However, when couples recognize they need and want to work on their relationship, overcome their individual issues, and create and maintain a healthy relationship, they can approach the dysfunction in their relationship entirely differently and begin to work their way out of irrelationship into relationship sanity.