Justin Lehmiller : Do you have any insight or advice that you would share with regard to how couples can improve sexual communication in their relationship when it comes to getting what they want or initiating sex?
I know that's a problem for me all the time when Julie utters the four terrifying words, “we need to talk.” The first thing I’ve got to do is really get out my notebook and work on myself so I'm not defensive, so I'm really communicating to her.
Image: Supplied Mathematician James Murray and well-known love and relationship guru and psychologist, John Gottman teamed up to explore what exactly makes some marriages happy and some miserable, beginning by creating a mathematical model that quantified how couples interact and influence each other during an argument.
He concluded that high standards don't work in a marriage if partners have poor communication skills, a high level of stress, or little time to devote to the relationship. The work of couples therapists John and Julie Gottman provides some answers to the question of what is reasonable to expect in a happy marriage.