Some even went as far as calling it "tacky" and "braggy." Will this change the way you share your memories?
If you have a lot of parent friends on social media, you may be familiar with Christmas Eve photos of lounge rooms full of wrapped gifts. You'll see Santa sacks, oozing with toys adorned with bright ribbons and a plate of cookies and glass of milk for the big jolly man in red. There may even be a superimposed Santa standing in the foreground of the photo which is usually captioned, "Caught in the act!" or "Got him!"
Similar happens on birthdays, with proud parents sharing photos of their child's birthday gifts. After all, they've worked hard, and gift wrapping is NOT for the faint hearted!
When you see these photos, do you judge them? Does it make you feel sad for those who aren't as fortunate, or just excited about the festive season?
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Create tech-free zones. Keep family mealtimes, other family and social gatherings, and children's bedrooms screen free. Turn off televisions that you aren't watching, because background TV can get in the way of face-to-face time with kids. Recharge devices overnight—outside your child's bedroom to help him or her avoid the temptation to use them when they should be sleeping. These changes encourage more family time, healthier eating habits, and better sleep.
"It feels really tacky and showy"
A mum has posted to parenting forum, Mumsnet , asking if she is "being unreasonable" to find the images "distasteful".
"I've noticed a trend on Facebook for mums to post photos the night before their child's birthday of a big pile of wrapped up gifts," she wrote in her post.
"Or just as bad," she continued, "after the event posting a picture of a big pile of opened gifts."
"Since when does anyone want to see pictures of presents? It feels really tacky and showy."
"It is in bad taste and quite braggy"
Many agreed with the original poster, labelling the act all sorts of names from "braggy" to "unnecessary".
"I think it is in bad taste and quite braggy," wrote one person. "Whatever happened to a couple of pictures of the kid opening gifts? What about people who cannot afford to give as many presents? Unfortunately with social media you will get pictures such as these, the Christmas ones with the tree with loads of presents under it."
Another said it is "tacky and totally unnecessary," and "a bit like everything people put on Facebook."
Full listening. Try to increase those times that you give your child your undivided attention and are really listening. This does not mean dropping everything every time she speaks.
One pointed out the REAL photo opportunity is the smile on your kid's face as they unwrap the toy they've been begging for.
"This is nothing about the joy of seeing your child with a gift they desperately wanted and are happy and grateful to receive. The child would be in the photo in this instance. This is about Braggy consumerism at its worst. Look at me I can get my child this pile of presents. Look at me look at me look at me. And stuff anyone who may see this that is struggling to provide for their family for whatever reason. It’s just all me me me."
How is it such a bad thing to share your joy? Image: iStock.
"You don't know people's reasons"
Let's take a step back a little, and consider the other side of the scenario.
If you don't like what you see on social media, there's always an option to unfollow the person or hide their updates from your timeline. Who are we to judge what others do on their own social media accounts?
One person said it's all about documenting the memories: "They grow up too soon, and I wanna remember it all. Coming from a woman who is suffering infertility which messes with my mental health sharing my child's like helps me, I get to look back at happy tones and not feel so like a failure," she said, adding, "Not everything has a selfish reason behind it. You don't know people's reasons."
Trust your mommy gut. No one knows your child better than you. Follow your instincts when it comes to his health and well-being. If you think something's wrong, chances are you're right.
Another pointed out there's nothing wrong with sharing news you're excited about: "I find scoffing at other people and how they make their happiness to be the sad thing, really."
What do you think is the real problem? Happy mums sharing a few snaps online, or people that have such an issue with it? And will this change the way you share your memories?