Why you like your bestie more than your husband, according to science

If you're feeling guilty about that, it's OK - in fact, research says you're in the majority on this one.

Look through the text messages in your phone.

If you're anything like most women, the texts (and snaps, insta-messages, Facebook comments and so on) will be much longer and more frequent between you and your best friend than they will between you and your other half.

While the last text you sent to your husband might have been about picking up milk or your son pooing in the bath for the second night in a row, the last text you sent to your bestie is most likely about the many and varied ways in which Bradley Cooper is your problematic dream man in A Star Is Born.

Or is that just me?

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We like our friends more than our other halves

Perhaps worryingly, research suggests that in fact, most of us like our best friends more than we like the people we are married to.

A survey conducted by Champney's Health Spa found that over 50 percent of married women considered themselves closer to their BFF than to their husbands.

Eat at least one meal as a family each day. Sitting down at the table together is a relaxed way for everyone to connect - a time to share happy news, talk about the day, or tell a silly joke. It also helps your kids develop healthy eating habits.

Of the 1517 women surveyed, the most common reason for preferring the company of their besties over their spouse was that "they could talk to their girlfriend about anything", followed closely by the fact that their female friends were better listeners.

Other reasons included "we laugh until we cry", and the fact that nearly a quarter admitted to having much more in common with their girlfriends than their husbands.

Is it ... bad?

If you found yourself nodding guiltily as you read the previous paragraph, should you be reconsidering the relationship you're in?

Probably not, says psychologist Belinda Williams . In fact, it might actually be the sign of a healthy balance in meaningful relationships.

"We often expect our partners to fill our total needs - emotional, physical, logistical etc," she tells Kidspot.

"This can be where we come unstuck as these expectations are challenging to meet so over time, can result in some dissatisfaction.

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"Considering out emotional needs men and women often resolve emotional distress differently, men often needing a solutions approach and women an empathetic space to be heard and validated. When these expectations and needs are not met we often turn to our bestie who can relate to the female experience with issues like motherhood, juggling career and general other women's business."

Abide by the three rules of homework. Number one: "Eat the frog," says Ted Theodorou, a middle-school social studies teacher in Fairfax County, Virginia. That's shorthand for "Do the hardest thing first." Rule number two: Put away the phone. Homework time can't be totally tech-free (computers, alas, are often a necessary evil), but it can at least be free of text messages. Rule number three: As soon as assignments are finished, load up the backpack for tomorrow and place it by the door. This is a clear three-step process that kids can internalize, so there's less nagging from you. (Yes!)

In short - we need our besties AND our partners

Luckily, there's room in the human heart for infinite different types of love - and while there might be some things about your relationship with your bestie that you feel you can't share with your hubby, there are likely a multitude of things your husband gives you that you can't get from your friends.

Just remember, for ever ten text messages you shoot your friends, remember to save one for your other half that has nothing to do with picking up the groceries. You might be surprised where it leads.