To all the doubting, anxious mums: You deserve better

This mum of six reveals her ongoing struggle with her mental health.

I know what you've been thinking about yourself, and I want you to know that it's not okay and you deserve better.

Sometimes we can be our own worst enemies, the things we say to ourselves can be absolutely shocking. And although most of us do it, it's definitely not healthy to let those cruel voices get too loud.

Beating yourself up about how you're not pretty enough, strong enough, a good enough mother; friend, sister, daughter. Comparing yourself everyday to other people and then tearing yourself down even more- it's definitely not okay.

And of course most of us hide it away in fear it will show some kind of weakness, or even worse somebody might reach out and we'll be forced to talk and cry about it. Scary stuff.

We need to feel like we can open up about our troubles. Image: Facebook/Eight at home

We need to feel like we can open up about our troubles. Image: Facebook/Eight at home

So let's talk about it; I've struggled with anxiety from my earliest memories in life. In every situation I assume everyone in the room is staring at me, judging me, every whisper was directed at me; every Facebook status, Instagram post, snide remark. I mean how could it not be when I am so large and bombastic and just an all round terrible person who nobody would want to be friends with?

"Ask your child what he wants for dinner only if he’s buying." - Fran Lebowitz

Pretty cruel? Pretty much 15 years of my life day in, day out. Until one day I decided it had to stop.

With a little help from talking about it with my husband, friends and family; my mindset changed and my positive voices became louder than my negative one. Sure I still struggle and on those days I reach out.

I just wanted to let you know. You lady; are more beautiful than you know and are doing better than you ever dreamed, you're caring, kind and compassionate and with all the things in life we have to juggle you deserve a medal!!

Krechelle and her six kids. Image: Facebook/Eight at home

Krechelle and her six kids. Image: Facebook/Eight at home

Whichever part of the journey you're at, seek help, ask a friend, a family member, a helpline, a doctor; I did all of these things. And they all helped in completely different ways.

And while it might have become normal to you to think all of these terrible things day in and day out, you don't always have to live that way; I needed to let you know, things can change and that I see you.

You are loved.

This post originally appeared on Krechelle's Facebook page and is republished here with permission. By Krechelle Carter.

"Ask your child what he wants for dinner only if he’s buying." - Fran Lebowitz

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