Dads and doing hair? Hmmmm.
Dads are not the same as mums. Not to say that they're not absolutely awesome - but sometimes the fact that they're well, male, kind of makes things tricky for a girl growing up.
So, some hilarious daughter put a call out on reddit to find out just what girls wish their dads knew when they were younger.
Not to use rubber bands in hair
Yes, why did dads do that? And they also brushed really, really hard. WAY harder than mum.
"Not to use plain rubber bands as hair ties. F*ck that hurt!'' said one daughter.
"My dad grew out his hair long enough to tie back. He always used rubber bands and it makes me cringe but he wouldn't take any hair elastics I offered him,'' said another.
Another daughter said she wished her father knew how to do a braid. It would be tied back with a rubber band, though.
How mum did my hair. How dad did my hair. Source: iStock.
You can play trains with your daughters
Quite a few daughters said they wished their dad's disappointment at not having a son didn't cloud things.
"I am one of three daughters. I think my dad dad always secretly wanted a biological son, despite saying otherwise,'' one daughter wrote. "He had this handmade model train set stashed away in my parents’ room that has never been used. My mom thinks he was saving it for when he had a son but he never did. It never occurred to him that he could play trains with his daughters either.''
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"We like boy things too. You're not missing out on sports and guns and dumb jokes just cause you only had daughters,'' shared another.
Daddy daughter hair workshops that you can't miss.
A Dee Why beauty school has started running workshops to teach dads who to do their daughter's hair. Source: NND
The way you treat your wife informs my expectations of men
This is the way we learn about men. We see how you treat our mother and we never forget.
How dads treat boyfriends also says a lot.
"My father taught me how to take care of myself and expected that if I was ever in trouble I would deal with it or know when to bring him or my mother into it. If he didn't like one of my boyfriends he would let me know in private but would be respectful and shake their hands when they came around and stay quiet when they said something that made him mad,'' said one daughter.
How bad periods can be
Mums get it but dads can sometimes be embarrassed and clueless about PMT time.
"My dad thinks that a period is all about blood, but never understands that I go through an awful pain while on my period,'' one daughter shared.
"This was one thing my dad actually understood,'' said another. "I remember once I was sitting on the couch at 6am crying in pain because I couldn't sleep anymore and felt like death, thanks endometriosis, when my dad walks in. 'Jellybeany3 I know you want me to just f*ck of [sic]
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and die, but is there anything I can get to help at all before I go to work?" He came back into the room 10 mins later with a hot water bottle, pills, some junk food and a cup of tea.'''
Yes, period pain is real. No, we don't always have PMS. Source: iStock.
Do not be surprised when we get boobs
Don't be weird. Just don't say anything.
"Especially don't announce 'Bloody Hell, none of that's false advertising!?' (aka a push-up bra) when you notice them,'' said one daughter.
"My dad would point to my boobs regularly and comment on how small they were, and compared them to my younger sister's. I f*cking hated it," lamented another.
"My dad told me I'd have big boobs because I had good hips. 10 years later and I'm still waiting for my big boobs! Also, maybe just like don't say those kinds of things to your daughter or flirt with their friends,'' said another.
That we need our dads growing up
"My dad is the person I go to when I really need support/help/advice. We’re so much alike in so many ways, our similar personalities have definitely caused us to butt heads sometimes but it’s always been short-lived. I seriously don’t know what I’d do without him,'' one daughter shared.
"Life affords no greater responsibility, no greater privilege, than the raising of the next generation."- C. Everett Koop
"My dad always told me to be independent, focus on myself instead of boys, he also enrolled BOTH my brother and I in martial art classes instead of assuming I wouldn’t want to because I’m a girl, which is what I saw happen with a lot of my other friends. My papa did good,'' shared another.
So, maybe, just maybe, we can forgive them for the damned rubber band hair ties.