Screen Time: Advice for Parents
Are you concerned about how much time your child spends on their phone/tablet/computer? We’ve put together a guide for parents on advice and talking points with your child on screen time.
How Much is Too Much?
Unfortunately – there is no magic number, children use their devices and computers for lots of different reasons – to learn, to play, and to socialise. The most important thing is to set clear boundaries on screen time and set a good example.
‘Screen time’ is an obsolete concept. As digital media become integrated into all aspects of daily life, it is more important to think about what your child is doing online and who they are doing it with than to consider arbitrary rules about time.
And when I think about time running out, I certainly do have a nagging feeling that I should spend more time with the people I really care about, deal with my social media habit, get focused, knuckle down, finally decide what I want to do with what remains of my life and then do it with ruthless efficiency before it is too late.
1. Agree on a clear set of rules with your child on screen time in the home. Talk to your child on when you think it is appropriate and inappropriate to use screens. Agree times when screens are allowed and not allowed in the home. For example dinner time, homework time and bedtime.
2. Do as you say. Modelling behaviour is THE most powerful way you can influence your child’s behaviour.
3. Restrict the use of computers/devices in the bedroom. Depending on the age of your child you may want to set a curfew or ban devices from the bedroom completely.
4. Buy an alarm clock for your child’s bedroom and charge their phones in your room at night time. This can be a helpful way of giving them a break from the internet.
5. Pick one evening a week where you do a family activity together , whether it’s movie night, games night. Doing activities together as a family will help implement screen time guidelines and offer fun alternatives.
Treat media as you would any other environment in your child's life. The same parenting guidelines apply in both real and virtual environments. Set limits; kids need and expect them. Know your children's friends, both online and off. Know what platforms, software, and apps your children are using, what sites they are visiting on the web, and what they are doing online.
6. Join in, why not set some time aside to play your child’s favourite computer game and discover the online world together.
7. Try not to rely on screens too much to keep the kids amused. It can be easy to encourage kids to pick up the tablet or play a game on the computer to keep them occupied. This only confuses rules on screen time, try and stick to the agreed rules with your child and remember to set a good example.
8. Don’t have screens always on in the background. Turn off TVs and Computers when not in use, these can be distracting for kids if they are trying to participate in another activity.
9. Chat with your child about what they do online and encourage them to use their screen time for learning and education.
Apple Screen Time Manager
If you use an Apple iOS iPhone or iPad, you are now able to keep track of your screen time. With the new Screen Time features, you are able to monitor and control the following:
- Downtime – Schedule time away from the screen
- App Limits – Set time limits for apps
- Always Allowed – Choose apps you want at all times
- Content and Privacy – Block inappropriate content
Users can ‘Share Across Devices’ , meaning that these controls can be added to other devices that have been set up using your iCloud account. This is a really important development as parents can now use these features on their own device that a child uses, a family iPad, or a child’s device that you have set up. The new features also allow users to monitor the amount of time is spent in front of a screen, set time limits on apps such as games or social media, and set a range of restrictions on your device.
The Downtime function is a really nice way of making time for other activities, maybe you have a set dinner time or bedtime, perhaps you would like to schedule more family time in the evenings. This setting means that you can set a start and end time on the phone and only apps that you specifically allow, for example, the ‘Clock’ app, and calls are available during downtime. This is a great way to lead by example as limits set on your phone can be shared across all of your devices.
"We spend the first 12 months of our children’s lives teaching them to walk and talk, and the next 12 years telling them to sit down and shut up."- Phyllis Diller
The App Limits function allows you to limit the amount of time you use specific apps. If you add a time limit to an app it will give you a reminder that you have 5 more minutes before ‘downtime’. When the five minutes are up, the app is no longer accessible. This is a useful way of managing screen time across different categories such as: social networking, games, entertainment, creativity, etc.
The Always Allowed feature gives you access to apps even if you are using downtime. This may be useful for parents who want their children to have access to certain apps like ‘Maps’ or ‘Messages’ whilst restricting others.
Find out more details about these features here: https://support.apple.com/en-ie/HT208982
Apple Parental Controls
The Content and Privacy features are particularly helpful to set up parental controls and make a device safe for children. You can set a number of restrictions such as:
- iTunes & App Store Purchases: You can set a passcode when installing or deleting apps, and when making in-app purchases.
- Allowed Apps: You can turn off access to apps such as Mail, Safari, FaceTime, Camera, etc.
- Content Restrictions: Here you have the ability to restrict explicit content in Music/Podcasts and News, set age-ratings for TV and films, and very importantly you have the option of only allowing age-appropriate apps. Please note that the Digital Age of Consent is set at 16 in Ireland, meaning that children under the age of 16 should not use social media platforms without parental consent. This will also help young children from playing unsuitable games.
Under the Privacy section, parents can disable a range of different services, such as location, and ensure that changes to any settings they have set up are protected by a passcode. For a more detailed explanation of these features, please see: https://support.apple.com/en-ie/HT201304
Time Tracker on Instagram
Model brave behavior. Want confident kids? They will be less likely to be easily flustered if they see you taking healthy risks. "A lot of adults won't go to a movie solo because they would be embarrassed to be seen sitting alone. So do it, then talk to your kids about it," says David Allyn, the author of I Can't Believe I Just Did That. Similarly, if your kids see you laugh when you realize that your shirt has been on backwards all morning, maybe they'll giggle, instead of feeling embarrassed, when it happens to them.
Instagram has introduced tools to help you keep track of your social media use.
These features are available in your ‘Settings’ and then clicking /Your Activity/.
This will enable you to track how much time you are spending on the social networking site over a seven day period, giving you a daily average.
The dashboard, which will also be rolled out on Facebook in Ireland in the near future, is designed to give you more control about how and why you are using the app. You can monitor how much time you are using the app, and set a daily limit.
Because of my long-term interests in whether or not animals have a sense of time, I was especially please to see a very important and novel study on mice published in Nature Neuroscience called "Evidence for a subcircuit in medial entorhinal cortex representing elapsed time during immobility" by Northwestern University researchers James Heys and Daniel Dombeck.
You can also mute notifications so that you spend less time checking the app.