The boy is now 10 weeks old but the grandmother says her daughter and son-in-law are evil and will "go to hell" for "depriving her of the grandmother experience."
It can be a difficult time for your parents when you start a family of your own. While they may feel like your priorities are shifting (and they are), there is still a beautiful new grandchild to love and care for, and - even better - to spoil and hand back at the end of the day.
But one new grandmother has taken things too far with the expectations of her involvement in her newborn grandson's arrival into the world.
And it has cost her. Dearly.
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"My mum kept demanding she be at the birth"
A woman has posted to Netmums about her mother's behaviour leading up to, and following the birth of her son.
"I had my little boy in August," she began. "In the run up, my mum kept demanding she be at the birth because I 'won't cope' and I need her there (I'm 24 and married)."
"Life affords no greater responsibility, no greater privilege, than the raising of the next generation."- C. Everett Koop
She says she tried to politely explain to her mother that if she is needed, she would send for her.
She says the birth went well, she feels she coped just fine without her mother.
After her son was born, the woman sent her mother a text to let her know, and suggested she visit once the mother and baby returned home the following day.
"She didn't ask me how I was or say congratulations," wrote the new mum.
"Just bombarded me with questions like why didn't I get my husband to pick her up, telling me I'm evil and not normal for depriving a grandmother of the experience, that I'm mentally unstable, etc, then went on to abuse my husband."
'I told my daughter I don’t love her'
"She hopes he loses myself and our son and that we can go to hell pretty much. And that's putting it nicely."
The woman has only just given birth when her own mum got angry at her. Image: iStock.
So let us break it down for you: Mother is being pushy about being at the birth of her grandson, puts down her own daughter suggesting she couldn't cope without her there, then she goes psycho calling them names for "DEPRIVING HER" of her RIGHT to be at the birth.
The woman said it is now 10 weeks later and they still haven't spoken. The woman still hasn't even MET her grandson and she has missed out on the first 10 weeks of his life.
Keep in mind what grandmoms always say. Children are not yours, they are only lent to you for a time. In those fleeting years, do your best to help them grow up to be good people.
"My husband says I should stay away and that's she's unstable and shouldn't be around our son," she wrote, adding that it is really getting her down.
"This was meant to be a time for us all to create happy memories and instead I just spend a lot of time being upset."
"Should I feel guilty? The experience of the birth was amazing and I'm glad it was only myself and my husband there."
"It was your choice"
Pretty much everyone told the woman she has nothing to feel guilty about.
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"No you absolutely should not feel guilty," one person replied. "A child's birth is magical and it is up to the parents who they want present. I love my mum to bits but no way did I want her there when I gave birth!"
"Lots of mums want to support their daughter in labour, but it was your choice. The way she has reacted is totally unacceptable," wrote another.
Yet another pointed out: "Her behaviour is appalling. Don’t feel guilty you’ve done nothing wrong."
One person very wisely said, "It is not a social event or a spectator sport," asking if the older woman had her own mother at the birth of her daughter back in the day.
Julia Roberts (mom to twins Hazel and Phinnaeus): “I try to call my mother, Betty, with more regularity because I think, What if Hazel didn’t call me for two weeks? I’m able to see her mothering now from a different vantage point.”
You may wonder if this really is a thing. Surely a woman should have the right to choose who she wants at the birth of her baby without worrying about offending her mother.
Her mother is the one person who SHOULD always have her back.
She is the one who should understand a woman's choice, who knows it is an intimate and intensely vulnerable time.
Her mother, who should provide some distance then be happy to get to know her first grandson.
But instead she has cast a dark cloud of a time that is already an emotional and isolating time for many women.
New mums, speak up if you don't want someone at your birth.
And all other women, NEVER make it about you if you're not welcomed into someone else's birthing suite.
It is a privilege, not a right.