Would you go overseas leaving your toddler at home for five days? Is it even fair to ask?
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Destination weddings are great if you're trying to cut down on the guest list. But you also need to consider catering for people with young children if you really want them to be part of your big day.
A UK-based mum has posted to Mumsnet asking for advice about her brother's wedding which is to be held in Croatia when her daughter will be almost two years old.
"She is not invited"
"I've only just found out they are not having children at the wedding and she is not invited," the woman wrote in her post.
The groom has asked the family to head to Croatia three days prior to the wedding and stay at least one day afterward, making for a five-day event, but has requested no children be present.
The woman said her daughter is the only niece he has, and she feels upset that she is being excluded.
"It's a long time to leave her and I feel like she is part of the family too and can't see how she would do much harm," said the mum.
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"I wouldn't mind if it was at home as I understand some people don't want kids at a wedding but isn't it a bit much to expect us to go abroad and just leave her for days?"
Would you feel comfortable leaving your toddler for so long? Image: iStock.
"They can’t have it every which way"
Most people replied saying they wouldn't go if they were expected to go away for five days without their young child. Many of those agreed it's acceptable to have a child-free wedding or a destination wedding, but not to have both.
"I wouldn’t be going abroad for five days without my two-year-old," wrote one person. "They can’t have it every which way. It’s fine to have a child free wedding but you can’t combine that with a wedding abroad and expect people with children to go."
Another pointed out the grandparents may struggle too: "Yeah, fair enough if that's what they want but I wouldn't be going. DS (darling son), at two, would not have coped for five days without me and his GP's (grandparents) would not have coped brilliantly either! What a shame."
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And what about those saving their annual leave for a good old family vacation?
"No way would I give up that much of my annual leave for a trip that didn't include my kids," said one person.
A few others said they would go, but definitely not for the whole five days: "I'd probably go, but for two days (so for the actual wedding) and leave my DP (carling partner) with the toddler."
Would you be torn, or would this be a no-brainer for you?