Mom to man annoyed with toddler on flight: 'The problem wasn't with us, it was with you'

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Mom to man annoyed with toddler on flight: 'The problem wasn't with us, it was with you'

Having a crying child on your flight might seem like a nuisance, but one mom made sure to let everyone know it's even more nerve-wracking for parents.

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Special times. Set aside a few minutes at a regular time each day when you can give your undivided attention to your child. This quiet calm time – no TV, iPad or phones - can be a confidence builder for young children. As little as five minutes a day can make a difference.

Rasha Ali, USA TODAY Published 12:34 p.m. ET Feb. 5, 2019 | Updated 12:59 p.m. ET Feb. 5, 2019
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Having crying, screaming kids on your flight is taxing, yes, but even more so if you're the parent of those crying, screaming children.

Stephanie Hollifield, a mom blogger for Momstrosity , wrote an open letter to an annoyed gentleman on her flight who appeared visibly bothered by her toddler's cries midair.

"I first noticed you when you sighed loudly as you laid eyes on me and my toddler boarding the plane. From the over dramatic huffs and puffs you let out as we buckled in, it was clear that you were annoyed by our very presence," the mom started in a lengthy social-media post . "I wondered if you had a bad day, or if this grouchy temperament was your normal temperament." She wrote that as her daughter had a tantrum, the man continued his "mutters of annoyance and looks over your shoulder. You even shoved the back of the sear towards us."

Hollifield went on to explain that this was her first time flying with her baby girl and that when her daughter started to throw a tantrum, she felt ashamed and guilty for being unable to calm her kid. So much so that she almost started crying right along with her daughter.

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"I apologized to everyone around me. I almost started crying myself. I was feeling shame and guilt for not being able to control my own child," shared Hollifield. "I was at the end of my rope, but then, an angel to the rescue- the flight attendant came by and gave my daughter a cup and straw to play with."

Model brave behavior. Want confident kids? They will be less likely to be easily flustered if they see you taking healthy risks. "A lot of adults won't go to a movie solo because they would be embarrassed to be seen sitting alone. So do it, then talk to your kids about it," says David Allyn, the author of I Can't Believe I Just Did That. Similarly, if your kids see you laugh when you realize that your shirt has been on backwards all morning, maybe they'll giggle, instead of feeling embarrassed, when it happens to them.

The mom went on to say how a simple kind gesture was all nervous flying mothers really need and that if you can't be kind or offer up a smile, then just keep your judgments to yourself.

She said she also realized: "The problem wasn’t with us, it was with you. What you need to know, is that while children can be terribly inconvenient now, they will run the world when you are old and grey."

Hollifield is the same mom who went viral in November for asking the internet for help with her black daughter's hair.

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