Britain’s first pregnant man has opened up about his difficulties carrying a child as a man — and gives a surprise warning to others wanting to do the same.
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The first British man to give birth has opened up on the struggles he experienced being pregnant.
Hayden Cross, 22, was born a girl named Paige, but despite living legally as a man for three years, decided to put his transition on hold in 2016 so he could fulfil his dream of becoming a parent.
But after giving birth to daughter Trinity Leigh in 2017, who is now 18 months old, Hayden has said the process was incredibly difficult — and wouldn’t advise other transgender people to go through the pain.
It was really hard
“It was really strange and there were a lot of emotions and a lot of feelings,” he said on UK TV chat show Lorraine.
“I wouldn’t advise anyone to do it if I’m honest because it was really hard,” he said.
Admitting his struggle with the idea of giving birth was the reason he chose to have a C-section, the new dad went on to explain it was “pretty straightforward”.
The former supermarket worker however said he couldn’t have done it without the support of his friends and family as the pregnancy and birth mentally took its toll.
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Back in January 2017, Hayden revealed in The Sun that he was the first man in Britain to get pregnant, after finding a sperm donor on Facebook.
I'm worried about how I'll look
At 16 weeks pregnant, he revealed he planned to have the baby before completing his transition, which involves remove his breasts and ovaries.
Hayden told The Sun on Sunday at the time he was concerned over the imminent changes to his body as he progressed through the pregnancy.
“I am worried about how I will look and what people will think and say about me,” he said. “There are a lot of small-minded people out there.”
He also added he hoped his decision would help inspire others, despite the fact he would be “judged” for being “trans and pregnant”.
“I’m glad I’m doing it as I hope in inspires other people to be happy in themselves.”
Thomas Beatie was the first transgender man in the world to carry a baby, giving birth to a daughter.Source:News Corp Australia
Not the first man to carry a baby
While Hayden is the first man in the UK to carry his own child, he’s not the first man in the world.
Thomas Beatie, from Arizona, US, is now a dad-of-three after first becoming pregnant in 2007.
Repeat: I am not a short-order cook. "It's a child's job to learn to eat what the parents eat," says Ellyn Satter, a registered dietitian and the author of Secrets of Feeding a Healthy Family. Instead of the all-or-nothing scenario, offer a variety of foods at mealtime: the main course, plus rice or pasta, a fruit or vegetable, and milk. This way, your child can eat just the pasta and the peas and get protein from the milk. "What a child eats over the course of a day or a week is more important than a balanced meal at one sitting," says Stephen Daniels, the chairman of the department of pediatrics at the University of Colorado School of Medicine, in Aurora.
In similar circumstances, Mr Beatie, 42, was born a female but had hormone treatment while keeping his female reproductive organs.
He and his wife Nancy made the decision for him to birth their children as she had undergone a hysterectomy several years earlier.
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