Inspiring 3-year-old twins with Down syndrome have become social media stars

With their traditional good looks and mischievous smiles, it’s easy to see how Charlie and Milo McConnel have won over the internet.

But the 3-year-old twin brothers don’t have a clue they’ve become darlings on social media, where they provide inspiration to tens of thousands around the world and have helped raise awareness about Down syndrome.

The boys have more than 21,000 followers on Instagram, where their “Chuckles and Meatloaf” handle is a throwback to nicknames their parents used when the twins were infants. They have an additional 9,000+ followers onFacebook.

The boys have more than 21,000 followers on Instagram, where their “Chuckles and Meatloaf” handle is a throwback to nicknames their parents used when the twins were infants. They have an additional 9,000+ followers onFacebook.

Julie McConnel, their mother, said she originally started the Facebook page right before the twins were born as a way to provide updates to family and friends. She found another reason to use the platform as the boys got older.

“I just wanted it to be more of a way to share, ‘This is our life; and this is what it's really like to grow up and have twins in your home with Down syndrome,’” she told TODAY. “Because that's what I wanted to know when I got the diagnosis — what is this life really, really, really like? I don't just want to see rainbows and butterflies and miracles every day.”

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It was social media that helped McConnel after she first learned she was pregnant with twins who had Down Syndrome. Although she connected with members of her local Down syndrome association in her Boise, Idaho, community, McConnel relied on encouragement from people she met online, particularly a family in Scotland who, like her, had fraternal twins with Down syndrome.

She now hopes her boys and their social media pages provide similar comfort and reassurance to others.

Milo and Charlie as infants.Courtesy of the McConnel family

“I have these children who are so remarkable and so unique and so special. I feel like I have them for a purpose and that I could be for someone else what these twins in Scotland were for me. Pay it forward, right?” she said.

Like most 3-year-olds, the boys can be a handful. Charlie, who was a pound bigger at birth, is the more physical of the two. He was the first to walk and jump. He loves playing with any kind of ball and to sumo wrestle his dad.

Courtesy of the McConnel family

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Milo, who spent three weeks in the neonatal intensive care unit after needing surgery to repair a kink in his small intestines, initially had trouble feeding. It took him longer to sit, smile and walk, but now he’s caught up to his twin brother — and even surpassed him when it comes to sign language, which he loves to use.

“We always say that Charlie’s our athlete and Milo's our scholar. Those are their two distinct personalities,” their mother said.

The twins with their big sister. "She's crazy about the boys. Sometimes I feel like the boys like her better than me!" said their mother.Courtesy of the McConnel family

McConnel, 47, and her husband, Dan, 48, also have four older children, including two still at home — a 5-year-old son and an 18-year-old daughter.

McConnel has likened having fraternal twins with Down syndrome to winning the lottery because “it's so rare and remarkable.” But she readily admits she didn’t always feel that way.

“When we first got the diagnosis, we didn't feel like it was a lottery win, obviously. We were afraid and terrified and concerned and didn't know if we could handle the responsibility,” she said. “Unless you have a lot of experience in your life with people with Down syndrome, it can really be a blow because that unknown is scary. You feel like you've lost the future you imagined you were going to have.”

Put on your own oxygen mask first. In other words, take care of yourself or you can't be a fully engaged parent. Parents who deprive themselves of rest, food, and fun for the sake of their kids do no one a favor. "People feel guilty when they work a lot, so they want to give all their free time to their kids," says Fred Stocker, a child psychiatrist at the University of Louisville School of Medicine, in Kentucky. "But you risk getting squeezed dry and emotionally exhausted." A spa weekend may not be realistic, but it's OK to take 15 minutes for a bath after you walk in the door. (A tall request for a kid, yes, but a happier Uno player goes a long way.) Running ragged between activities? Ask your child to prioritize, says Taylor. She may be dying for you to chaperone a field trip but ambivalent about your missing a swim meet—the ideal amount of time for a pedicure.

But through education, and help from social media, she was able to shift her mindset.

And then came actual proof life would be fine: Charlie and Milo.

Their social media feed is now full of stories from families who can relate to their ups and downs, or who are seeking reassurance.

For example, McConnel detailed how she's embraced the fact that children with Down syndrome typically take longer to develop their speech and has taught Milo sign language while he finds his words.

"He can express what he wants, tell us what he’s thinking of and participate in interactive games and songs," she wrote. "He is showing us that there is an awful lot going on in that wicked smart little head of his!"

For her, it's about celebrating life and developing a community.

“That's the only reason I'm on there,” McConnel said of the account's followers and the stories they've shared, which usually follow a path similar to hers.

"You feel like this thing that’s the biggest blow you've ever received in your life has suddenly become a tremendous blessing that you're so grateful for," she said.

A rarity - getting the entire McConnel family together for a photo!Ailshie Photography

“It’s a real common story. We all wish we could go back and tell ourselves when we were pregnant that it’s going to be okay and not to worry and waste time being so sad and afraid,” she said.

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“It’s a it's very normal process to go, but when you come out the other side, you realize, I wouldn't imagine my life any other way. I'm so thankful for my life the way that it is, with all the joy to be found, and the stress, just like with any child."