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'I left the hospital in yoga pants:' Moms, don't stress, we all can't be Duchess MeghanDuchess Meghan Markle was dressed to magnificence when she introduced her baby boy, but this mom says it's OK if that wasn't you. 'Embrace the mess.'
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Three days after giving birth to my youngest son last fall, I left the hospital in yoga pants, a tank top and flip flops.
A bevy of photographers were not waiting for me. Why would they be? I'm not a celebrity. Why would anyone care what I look like while cuddling a newborn?This week, Prince Harry and Duchess Meghan Markle introduced their 3-day-old son to the world. Like her sister-in-law Kate Middleton, the Duchess of Cambridge, Meghan was dressed to magnificence as she introduced her baby boy.
Teach kids this bravery trick. Tell them to always notice the color of a person's eyes. Making eye contact will help a hesitant child appear more confident and will help any kid to be more assertive and less likely to be picked on.
Yes, this is her job. But no woman should feel pressured to look perfect just hours into motherhood. (Nor should she feel obligated to wear heels on her swollen feet.)LinkedInMeghan and Prince Harry’s baby revealed: See the adorable photos!
A link has been posted to your Facebook feed.Meet the newest royal! Prince Harry and Meghan, Duchess of Sussex, introduced their newborn baby boy in St George's Hall at Windsor Castle on May 8, 2019. Dominic Lipinski, AP
FullscreenBaby Sussex was born May 6, 2019 at 5:26 a.m. DOMINIC LIPINSKI, AFP/Getty Images
FullscreenAn overjoyed Harry and Meghan have not yet revealed a name. WPA Pool/ Getty Images
FullscreenBaby Sussex's parents are in a state of bliss. Dominic Lipinski, AP
FullscreenNew mom Meghan places a hand on her newborn son. WPA Pool, Getty Images
FullscreenMeghan smiles at husband Prince Harry. The couple wed May 19, 2018, about a year before the baby's arrival. DOMINIC LIPINSKI, AFP/Getty Images
FullscreenWhen introducing his son, Prince Harry gushed, "Parenting is amazing." DOMINIC LIPINSKI, AFP/Getty Images
FullscreenMeghan shared the feeling of elation. "It's magic. It’s pretty amazing. I mean, I have the two best guys in the world, so I’m really happy," she said. Dominic Lipinski, AP
FullscreenShowing off his firstborn to photographers, Prince Harry joked that his son has "a little bit of facial hair." DOMINIC LIPINSKI, AFP/Getty Images
FullscreenMeghan said before greeting the media, the family bumped into Prince Philip, Duke of Edinburgh. Dominic Lipinski, AP
Prince Harry beams as a new father. Dominic Lipinski, AP
Create tech-free zones. Keep family mealtimes, other family and social gatherings, and children's bedrooms screen free. Turn off televisions that you aren't watching, because background TV can get in the way of face-to-face time with kids. Recharge devices overnight—outside your child's bedroom to help him or her avoid the temptation to use them when they should be sleeping. These changes encourage more family time, healthier eating habits, and better sleep.
Prince Harry and Meghan, Duchess of Sussex, arrive for a photocall with their newborn baby. Dominic Lipinski, AP
Prince Harry and Meghan walk toward the media to introduce their bundle of joy. DOMINIC LIPINSKI, AFP/Getty Images
When asked who their son looked like, Meghan said, "We’re still trying to figure that out.” DOMINIC LIPINSKI, AFP/Getty Images
Prince Harry said the first few days of parenthood have them "so thrilled." DOMINIC LIPINSKI, AFP/Getty Images
When describing her son's demeanor, Meghan said he's "calm," adding: "He’s just been the dream." WPA Pool, Getty Images
Before departing, Meghan said, “Thank you everybody for the well wishes and the kindness. It just means so much.” Dominic Lipinski, AP
What a lovely family. WPA Pool, Getty Images
The parents depart with their newborn, undoubtedly going to enjoy more baby bliss. Dominic Lipinski, AP
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I can't begin to tell you how often new, exhausted mothers share their frustrations as they fall short on unreal expectations.
They fret because their newborn doesn't sleep through the night.
They worry because their baby won't easily rise to eat from a bottle or breast.
They panic when their child will only sleep while being held.
They stress because they've set all household chores aside to tend to their newborn.
And of course, they feel ashamed when baby weight doesn't magically dissolve after giving birth.
It's. All. OK.
Baby will sleep...eventually. And baby will eat when hungry. The chores can wait. Soon enough, you'll be reminiscing about those early sleepless nights, wearing one single outfit for days straight and twice weekly showers.
Don't clip your child's wings. Your toddler's mission in life is to gain independence. So when she's developmentally capable of putting her toys away, clearing her plate from the table, and dressing herself, let her. Giving a child responsibility is good for her self-esteem (and your sanity!).
Try not to compare yourself with others. Pay no attention to the snapshot of life other mothers share on social media.
Here's a not-so-well kept secret: It's not reality.People share moments they want you to see: A well-groomed family portrait, siblings cuddling, a mess-free kitchen, a Pinterest-worthy nursery.
You rarely see the meltdowns, the clutter, half-cooked meals abandoned on the counter.
Embrace the mess. Give yourself grace. Wear your pajamas to the store with your newborn in tow. (People will comment on your adorable child, not your outfit.)
It will pass soon enough and you'll be happier for it. Heels and all.
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