Hilaria Baldwin explains why she's not silent about miscarriage: 'This is about all of us'

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Hilaria Baldwin explains why she's not silent about miscarriage: 'This is about all of us'

Hilaria Baldwin, who shares four children with Alec Baldwin, was on "Today" to talk about her possible pregnancy loss and miscarriage fears.


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Hilaria Baldwin, who shares four children with Alec Baldwin, was on "Today" to discuss her emotional Instagram post revealing she is "likely experiencing a miscarriage."

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In an interview with Savannah Guthrie and Hoda Kotb, Baldwin reiterated her message of normalizing miscarriage and encouraging women to stop the silence.

The pregnancy is probably "not going to stick"

Baldwin began by sharing that she has another scan today that may provide an answer about her current pregnancy.

"The heartbeat is not very fast," the technician told Baldwin at an early scan, she said.

Then at a second scan, it was the same.

"When we agree to be parents, we have to accept the good and the bad," she said. "It's not just all diapers and blankets and hair-bows. We have to open our hearts and realize there are going to be bad moments, too."

Watch @hilariabaldwin’s full interview with @savannahguthrie and @hodakotb about why she decided to publicly share her story about likely experiencing a miscarriage and the public conversation she’s started.

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Stop blaming yourself

Baldwin also tackled something many women who experience miscarriage face: self-blame.

As a yoga instructor, she's heard from women who are worried they may have twisted in a way that could hurt the baby, she said.

"Of course every body is different. If you're having a strong, healthy pregnancy, there is not a lot you can do to hurt it," she said. And added that "we should do as right as we can by our children."

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Women need to be more forgiving, she said.

Sharing makes it less scary

When Guthrie asked why Baldwin didn't hold back and is sharing this experience with the public right away, the mom's answer was simple.

"This is not about me, this is about all of us."

For her, talking about what she is going through helps.

"It would be harder to do it silently," she shared. "I would pretend I wasn't nauseous and pretend I wasn't tired and that's really tiring."

Then several times throughout the interview, she talked about reducing the fear.

"Secrets are only scary when they are secrets. Once you let the secret out, its not so scary anymore."

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