"His photos never got as many likes. Never got comments. From a statistical point of view, he wasn't as popular with everyone out there," wrote the mum-of-five.
Katie is a mum of five kids and blogs at bowerpowerblog. Image: Instagram/bowerpowerblog.
Parenting in a world where social media plays such a large role in how we live our lives can be stressful. If you're fighting for 'likes' and 'follows' and they're not as free-flowing, does this mean there's something wrong with you? Are your photos not good enough? Maybe there's some strawberry jam smeared across the camera lens on your phone...
Does it really matter though? What do all those clicks and comments really matter to the way you live your life?
Mummy blogger, Katie Bower, has recently shared a post along with an image of her son in celebration of his sixth birthday. While on the surface, it may resemble just another celebratory birthday post, but deep down, it represents something quite sad.
The post began with a birthday post for Weston. Image: Instagram/bowerpowerblog.
"His photos never got as many likes"
Give appropriate praise. Instead of simply saying, "You're great," try to be specific about what your child did to deserve the positive feedback. You might say, "Waiting until I was off the phone to ask for cookies was hard, and I really liked your patience."
"Guys I am gonna be perfectly honest," the mum of five wrote on her Instagram blog, bowerpowerblog .
"Instagram never liked my Munchkin and it killed me inside," she continued.
"His photos never got as many likes. Never got comments."
Katie went on to elaborate that of all her five children, six-year-old Weston was the one who, statistically speaking, had racked up the least interactions on her Instagram blog.
She speculated it was just a result of Instagram's algorithm, or perhaps because he was because he was only 'the baby' for the shortest time frame compared to the others.
"I want to believe it wasn't him," she wrote.
"My insufficiency caused this statistical deficit because obviously my Munch should get ALL the love and squinty eyes are totally adorable."
Then Katie calls on her followers to life the photo to show her son just how much everyone loves him.
She later added that she decided to write about this because she knows one day all of her kids will see the photos and he may notice his perform less than that of his siblings. She hopes nobody takes her words out of context, and she will read out any birthday messages to her son.
Kiss and hug your spouse in front of the kids. Your marriage is the only example your child has of what an intimate relationship looks, feels, and sounds like. So it's your job to set a great standard.
Weston is one of five siblings. Image: Instagram/bowerpowerblog.
"I love Insta"
There was instant backlash, with some on Twitter referring to Katie as "delusional and misguided" and eventually Katie took down the post.
In a teary Insta story, she later recalled when she first started up her Instagram blog.
"Instagram was the first platform I got on and I fell HARD for it. I love Insta," she said.
She said she was blogging for years before Instagram was even a thing. But she has had to learn how it all works, as many others have, that the likes do not reflect reality.
"A lot of people thought that I needed him to be liked," she said, adding that SHE likes him and nothing will ever change that.
She said it's human nature to compare, and kids know what likes are.
"My personal journey is teaching my kids that it doesn't matter."
This is a very important message to teach children who have been born into the digital age. It's just unfortunate that the delivery was so unclear and attracted so much hate, which is another important lesson about sharing things on the internet.
Don't pay your kids to clean their rooms. "If you give them a buck to make their beds, then when you ask them to help you carry in the groceries, they'll say, 'How much? Why would I do that for free when you pay me to make my bed?'" says author and parenting expert Alyson Schafer. You can give your child an allowance as an introduction to money management and possibly for overall good behavior. But don't tie it dollar-for-dollar to everyday chores.